Matthew Benavidez, LMFT

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5 tips for a successful long distance relationship

Are you in a long-distance relationship? If so, you're not alone! According to recent studies, as many as one in five couples are now in a long-distance relationship. And while there are certainly challenges that come with being apart, there are also things you can do to make your long-distance relationship successful. Here are five tips to help you maintain your relationship when you're miles apart!

1. Talk as often as possible

The number one predictor of relationship satisfaction and stability is the quality of communication between partners. When you and your partner are in the same room, it's easy to take conversation for granted. However, when you're in a long-distance relationship, regular communication is essential. One of the best ways to maintain a strong connection with your partner is to schedule regular phone calls or video chats. This will give you both a chance to catch up on each other's day-to-day lives and share your thoughts and feelings. In addition, try to be as open and honest as possible during these conversations. Don't be afraid to express your needs or concerns, and be sure to listen carefully to what your partner has to say. By making communication a priority, you can keep your long-distance relationship strong and healthy.

2. Make time for video chats

Just because you're not physically together doesn't mean you can't have a rich, fulfilling relationship. One of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship strong is to make time for regular video chats. This gives you a chance to see each other's faces and body language, which can help to reduce misunderstandings. It also helps to create a sense of intimacy and connection, even when you're miles apart. So if you're in a long-distance relationship, be sure to schedule regular video chats with your partner. It's one of the best ways to keep your relationship strong.

3. Send each other thoughtful messages

One way to maintain intimacy in a long-distance relationship is to send thoughtful messages to each other. Simple things like, "I was thinking about you today and missing you," can go a long way. This lets your partner know that you are thinking about them even when you are not together. It also shows that you are interested in your partner's life and care about what is going on with them. Another thoughtful message might be, "I saw this and thought of you." This could be anything from a funny meme to a beautiful landscape. It doesn't matter what it is, just that you were thinking of your partner when you saw it. Regularly sending thoughtful messages is one way to keep the spark alive in a long-distance relationship.

4. Stay positive and upbeat

Being in a long-distance relationship can be difficult, but it is important to stay positive and upbeat. One way to do this is to make sure that you have realistic expectations. Long-distance relationships require more effort than being in a relationship where you see each other every day, so don't expect things to be perfect. If you can both be understanding and patient, you will find that your relationship will only get stronger. Another way to stay positive is to focus on the good times you have together. When you are apart, take time to talk about the things that made you laugh or feel loved. By staying positive and keeping your focus on the good parts of your relationship, you can weather any challenges that come your way.

5. Trust each other

Trust is one of the most important foundations for a lasting relationship, and this is especially true for couples who are in a long-distance relationship. When you are apart from your partner, it can be easy to let your imagination run wild, wondering what they are doing and who they are with. If you don't trust each other, it can quickly lead to jealousy and insecurity, which can destroy even the strongest relationships. Therefore, it is essential that you learn to trust each other if you want your long-distance relationship to work. This means being honest with each other about your activities and whereabouts, sharing your feelings and thoughts openly, and being reliable and supportive when your partner needs you. By developing trust in each other, you will create a strong foundation that will help to weather any challenges that come up in your long-distance relationship.

Conclusion

If you and your partner can follow these five tips, you'll be well on your way to a successful long-distance relationship. By talking often, making time for video chats, sending each other thoughtful messages, staying positive, and trusting each other implicitly, you'll keep the lines of communication open and maintain the intimacy of your relationship. Have fun!