ART for Betrayal Trauma & Affair Recovery (with Gottman + EFCT)

Written By Matthew Benavidez, LMFT



Why betrayal feels unbearable

Shock, looping images, and body alarm make conversation impossible. The injured partner can’t unsee; the involved partner can’t repair through the noise.



Where ART fits

ART targets the hot images/moments (disclosures, texts, scenes) fueling flashbacks. As distress lowers, Gottman tools (Atone–Attune–Attach) and EFCT bonding work can land better.



Safety and consent first

  • Pace the work; no forced detail sharing

  • Clear structure and boundaries for both partners

  • Integrate faith and values as desired



A general pathway

  1. Stabilize and set shared aims for healing

  2. ART to reduce flashbacks/reactivity

  3. Gottman repair + EFCT bonding sessions

  4. Rebuild rituals of trust and connection

Let's talk


Matthew Benavidez, LMFT

Matthew’s passion for therapy began early on in his life. Working through his own trauma at a young age, Matthew knows what the healing process looks like from all sides. Matthew’s own healing has varied from adjusting through divorced parents all the way to religious trauma. This has helped Matthew become more empathic towards his clients from all walks of life. Rest assured that you will be heard in a secure, shame-free environment.

https://benavidezlmft.com
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