How to Solve the Solvable Problems

It's no secret that relationships can be tough. But it's important to remember that many of the problems we face in relationships are actually solvable. If you're struggling with a problem in your relationship, don't give up! There is usually a solution if you're willing to look for it. In this blog post, we will discuss how to solve solvable problems and finally get past the issues that have been holding you back.

Identify the solvable problems in your relationship

All relationships have problems. The key is identifying which ones are solvable, and which ones are perpetual. Perpetual problems are those that can never be resolved, such as fundamental differences in values or personality clashes. Solvable problems are those that can be addressed and resolved through open communication and compromise. When faced with a problem, it's important to take a step back and ask yourself whether it's something that can be fixed. If it is, then it's worth putting in the effort to find a resolution. However, if the problem is perpetual, then it's important to accept that fact and learn to work around it. By identifying the solvable problems in your relationship, you can focus your energy on finding resolution instead of banging your head against a wall.

Address the issues that you can control

One of the biggest mistakes couples make is trying to change each other. If you find yourself repeatedly criticizing your partner for being messy or for forgetting to take out the trash, it's important to ask yourself whether this is truly an issue that you're willing to compromise on. In many cases, it's simply not worth the effort to try and change your partner's habits. After all, we all have our own unique way of doing things, and ultimately, it's more important to focus on areas where you can both compromise. Rather than dwell on the things that you can't change about your partner, try instead to focus on the things that you can control. For example, if you're feeling overwhelmed by household chores, talk to your partner about ways that you can lighten their load. By addressing the issues that you can control, you'll be more likely to find common ground with your partner and resolve the issues that are truly important to both of you.

Communicate effectively and respectfully with your partner

The key to arguing is to do it constructively. To express your feelings without hurting each other, to resolve conflict without resentment, and to come to a compromise that leaves both of you feeling satisfied. When done right, arguing can even make your relationship stronger. But when done wrong, it can lead to greater distance and dissatisfaction. So how can you argue in a way that will strengthen, rather than destroy, your relationship?

The first step is to stop viewing arguing as a negative experience. It’s normal and natural to have conflict in any close relationship. In fact, it’s an opportunity to build intimacy and closeness. If you can learn to express yourselves without resentment or hurt, you’ll be less likely to withdraw from each other during difficult times.

The second step is to focus on the problem at hand, not on criticizing or attacking each other. It’s important to be honest about your feelings, but try not to get personal. Stick to “I” statements: “I feel upset when you do X” rather than “you always do X”.

Brainstorm potential solutions

Brainstorming potential solutions to relationship problems is a productive way to spend time with your partner. It shows that you are both willing to put in the effort to make things work. When you are brainstorming, be sure to focus on solvable problems. These are the problems that can be fixed with a little effort and creativity. For example, if you and your partner have trouble communicating, you could brainstorm ways to improve your communication skills. This might involve attending a workshop or spending more time talking about your day-to-day experiences. If you focus on solving solvable problems, you will find that your relationship will improve significantly.

Choose a solution and try it out

One of the best things you can do is to choose a solution together and try it out with your partner. This way, you can see how it works before you commit to it. For example, if you're having trouble communicating about money, you might try creating a budget together. Or if you're not getting enough time alone together, you might try making a date night once a week.

Whatever solution you choose, the important thing is to be willing to experiment. When it comes to solving problems in relationships, there's no one-size-fits-all answer. So don't be afraid to try something new. With a little experimentation, you're sure to find a solution that works for both of you.

Conclusion

In order to have a successful relationship, both partners need to be able to identify the solvable problems and address them. By communicating effectively and respectfully with each other, you can work together to brainstorm potential solutions until you find one that works for both of you. It is important to remember that no solution is perfect, so be willing to try something new and be flexible if it doesn’t work out. Ultimately, the success of your relationship depends on both of you working together to solve the solvable problems in your life.