Breaking Negative Cycles: How ART Supports Couples Work

Written By Matthew Benavidez, LMFT


Why Cycles Get So Sticky

When old hurts or trauma get triggered, partners can slip into criticism, defensiveness, or shut-down. Even excellent skills don’t stick if the body stays on high alert.


How ART Helps

  • Neutralizes hot-button images/memories fueling instant reactivity

  • Reduces physical distress so conversations stay grounded

  • Clears space for Gottman conflict tools and EFCT bonding moments to work


A Brief Vignette

A couple felt stuck: one partner escalated fast; the other shut down. We targeted a specific past memory with ART. After rescripting, their “heat” dropped. Gottman repair tools started working; EFCT sessions deepened safety and responsiveness.


Your Care, Your Values

We’ll tailor sessions to your relationship culture and faith. Respect, consent, and clarity guide the process.

Matthew Benavidez, LMFT

Matthew’s passion for therapy began early on in his life. Working through his own trauma at a young age, Matthew knows what the healing process looks like from all sides. Matthew’s own healing has varied from adjusting through divorced parents all the way to religious trauma. This has helped Matthew become more empathic towards his clients from all walks of life. Rest assured that you will be heard in a secure, shame-free environment.

https://benavidezlmft.com
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